Somehow I must’ve missed the memo that spring cleaning has been over for a month and a half now. I have made a commitment to do a complete declutter in my life. And how am I doing this summer? Well…it’s not going as smoothly as I hoped. But I have not given up and learned alot about myself and how I get in my own way sometimes in completing my goals:
- I get lost in the details. Whether I am designing a new organizing system, or sorting through a bin of baby clothes, I will spend too much time in creating the ideal environment to declutter or how I should do it. My intention for doing my process this way is to make the final actions go more efficient, but now I have piles of unfinished projects sitting around.
- I put an unhealthy attachment on other people’s sentimental stuff. This one has become a revelation of mine as I became the keeper of my mom’s possessions. I have no direct attachment to her personal memorabilia, but I have had a difficult time separating myself. Especially her letters. My mom had the most beautiful handwriting, and it’s hard to part with any of it. I even saved her last checkbook register, the last words she wrote before her critical stroke. Although it’s perfectly fine to hold on to some of the things that mean the most to me, I have to let go and not feel guilty about it.
- I don’t set a deadline. I have found in my professional life that I thrive on having a deadline. If I give myself a time limit, I won’t have time to over think or over analyze. I will complete more projects, and the momentum will give me the boost to keep with it.
I have come to the realization that if I am to achieve my goal to a simpler, uncluttered life, I have to ask myself when faced with a choice, “Does this choice (or activity) help or hinder my goals?”
When I decided to have a business card for my blog and social media connections, I could have spent way too much time in the design of the card. Even though I have the ability and tools to create a card for myself, I could have been lost in picking the right font, possibly still to this day. I decided it was worth my time and energy to hire a designer to collaborate one with me. It was the best decision I made and I am so happy how it turned out.
This path I have chosen is about doing and being, not about being wrapped up in the process, distracting me from my dreams. Sometimes that means making the tough choices, but the freedom on the other side is worth everything.
Ciao for now,
What areas in your life are you lost in the details? Is that helping or hindering you from your dreams or goals?